A Day In The Salon

June 30, 2011 / by / 8 Comments

“What?  Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?  For ye are bought with a price:  therefore, glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

(I Corinthians 6:19-20 KJV)


Wow!!! What an awesome privilege, honor, and RESPONSIBILITY. You see, we often think about the blessing of being saved by grace; however, we rarely focus on the tremendous responsibility we hold to receive and accept such a gift.

My sisters and brothers in Christ; please know and understand that although the gift of salvation is free, it does not come without responsibility, sacrifice, and obligations.  God clearly says in His word that “your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you” and that “ye are not your own.”  Therefore, my question to you is, what will it take for us, the body of born again believers, to understand that this walk is not about you!

If you have given your life to Christ…it no longer belongs to you.  Don’t you remember the day you gave the preacher your hand and confessed with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and believed in your heart that God had raised him from the dead, and they announced to you that thou shalt be saved?”

(Romans 10:9 paraphrased)

At that point, you died; Jesus stepped in to take control.  If your heart was truly sincere during that process, you made a covenant to follow Christ in obedience with your life for the rest of your life.  Therefore, your words, actions, thoughts, and deeds should represent Christ at all times.  Whoa!!! Now that’s deep; but that’s the Word.  A covenant is a vow, and a vow is forever “saints”….it is until death.  (Ecclesiastes 5:4-5 NIV) When you make a vow to God, do not delay in fulfilling it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it!!” That’s why wedding vows state “until death do we part”.  They are not meant to be broken.

It is often quite amazing to me how we as “professed” people of God constantly quote scriptures and openly give accolades of love and honor to our Lord and Savior, but fail to represent our love for Him in our daily walk and overall lifestyle.

We don’t seem to have a problem with lying, cussing, excessive drinking, partying and fornicating.  It doesn’t seem to bother us to cheat on our income taxes, gamble, or openly live homosexual lifestyles.  Somehow we feel as long as we go to church, praise God and jump and shout all over the sanctuary we have fulfilled our obligation as Christians.  Well, I’m sorry but the Word of God instructs us “…Be ye holy; for I am holy,” (I Peter 1:16 KJV). We have a responsibility to guard the temple that houses the Holy Spirit.   It must be holy.  Therefore, we cannot simply do what we want to do.

If you make your own decisions, how can you say that He is your Lord and Savior?  If you do not follow his voice and live according to His Word, how can He be the head of your life?  If you have given Him your life, you must make a decision to live in obedience to His Word.  There is no in between.  You either belong to Him or you don’t.  His word states, “My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:” (John 10:27 KJV). “My” represents ownership.  Therefore, if you are participating in activities outside His Word, you are clearly not following His voice.  Therefore, it is imperative that you ask yourself if your lifestyle and choices indicate that you belong to Him.

I am reminded of a time when I spent a day in a hair salon.  I sat patiently waiting to be called back by my stylist, as I watched three women heavily engrossed in a conversation about life.  They talked about celebrities, dating and God.  I listened as the young black woman confidently stated that she was only attracted to white men.  When questioned, she firmly stated, “What can I talk to a black man about”; as to insinuate that you cannot hold an intelligent conversation with a black man.  Then the older black woman stated all the men for her were in the grave, because she likes to be “wined and dined” as to imply that “brothers” are no longer pursuing, wooing and pampering their women.  The more they discussed relationship issues the more convinced I became that they had more than likely made poor relationship choices in the past, consequently resulting in their current opinions of men.

However, as the conversation continued, a young black man walked in and sat down beside me.  This particular young man was in the middle of a telephone conversation, and based on the volume of his voice did not seem to care who heard the contents of his discussion.

The more he laughed and conversed the more disturbed I became.  This young man boasted about life as a single man.  He adamantly exclaimed that he was not thinking about getting married and that he enjoyed his singleness, his partying, living life and having his pick of women to have sex with.  He never mentioned a desire to love, or have a person in his life that he could trust and depend on, or even that he enjoyed the one on one intimacy moments with a woman.  It was quite clear.  There would be no commitment, and no obligations, which boiled down to no respect and absolutely no love.

Now, although that conversation troubled me, what concerned me more were the details of the event that followed once the telephone conversation had ended.  This young man approached one of the stylists in the salon and handed her $50.00.  The dialogue that followed revealed that he was paying to get a woman’s hair done that was scheduled to come in the following day.  Another woman that was present questioned his actions and he stated, “I don’t mind paying for a hair-do, because I will get mine back…trust.”

This young man than begin to engage in a conversation with the three woman (the stylist, an older woman, and a woman that looked to be around his age) about his life with numerous women.  However, what was most disturbing was that as the young man was preparing to leave, the younger women stated, “I need a hair-do”.  The young man responded without hesitation, “I will pay for your hair-do, but you will have to come over to the house.”  They laughed and talked, laughed and talked, laughed and talked…but guess what, for some strange reason the two ended up leaving the salon at the same time.  Now, did the two ever connect?  I do not know, nevertheless I sat in sheer amazement, and watched this entire scene unfold before my eyes.

My Sisters…please know and understand that you are worth more than a hair-do!!! Are you serious!!!  The word of God says; you were bought with a price!!!  It astounded me that a man can stand before women and brag about his open lack of respect for females and relationships.  It troubled me that the gender that was created to be the leader, the head, the priest, provider, and protector of the household had absolutely no desire, or concern about standing in the role that God created specifically for him.  It concerned me that the gender that God created first, and put to sleep to remove a rib to create another gender as his helper, would so proudly boast about living opposite of what God created and designed for His people or for their purpose.  Yet, what troubled me most; was that a woman would subject herself to this treatment for a few dollars.  You are worth more than that!!! Ladies, you are so special and precious in God’s eyes.  You were designed by God in love and placed under the care and protection of a man with purpose.

Now fellows, I know and I truly do understand that there are some rough women out here.  However, please do not allow the conditions of the world to contaminate what God created as “good.”  If she doesn’t carry and conduct herself as a lady should, leave her alone!!!  I don’t care how “fine” she may be.  A knock-out body will absolutely be of no benefit to your union if that temple does not house character, integrity, nurturing, and love. It’s a beautiful shell that’s useless.  Therefore, embrace God’s design.  He really does know what He’s doing.

Sex was created by God to bind together a man and a woman for life.  There is a deposit and receipt action that takes place that will forever connect the man and the woman.  It’s a very intense and pleasurable moment that was only instituted for a husband and his wife.  It’s a union that is intimate, real, and committed.  It was created to be a joyous and emotional bonding of two people that will illuminate their love for each other that will also be a parallel representation of Christ’s love for the church.  It was not and never will be about satisfying the flesh.  Nor was it created to be a recreational activity between strangers or acquaintances.  It’s about worshipping Christ in your obedience with your life, because you are unifying a union that was ordained by God to become one.


Now, on the other hand, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single.  Singleness does have its perks and purpose.  Never ever feel as though you are cursed because you are still single.  God knows what is best for your life.  Just trust Him and let Him lead.  However, know that if you are single, whether by choice or by force, you have an obligation to live a life of celibacy.

So my sisters and brothers in Christ; please remember that everything we do should glorify the Father, and that means everything.  Your body does not belong to you! It was bought with a price!!! He suffered to give you something that’s eternal, don’t exchange it for a temporary thrill.  Always remember, YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT!!!!

8 Responses
  1. Davis, Lisa

    There is nothing like the truth to sting you into true awareness and knowing. We must be reminded of our worth and the Love that bought it ( JESUS ).

    Jun.30.2011 at 5:46 pm
  2. Frederick Dowdell

    My friend, any true believer of Christ would know that the walk is not about them but about seeking and living as Christ did. Our responsibility is to learn His words so that we will know how he lived and then we will know how to find Him.

    You are so right about us giving accolades of Love and Honor to our Savior because I do it daily but I do try really hard to represent Him daily in all that I do.

    Wow, you are so right as how can we say He is our Lord and Savior or head of our life when we rarely take the simplest task to him to let Him lead us or follow His command when we don’t take the time to listen for his voice.

    It is sad that our brothers act in such a manner that degrades and disrespects our Queens but my main concern is that why women are using a bad situation they went through to judge all men on because we are all not alike because I would never degrade or disrespect my Quen in such a manner no matter how she may put herself out there as not being worth 2 cents. I would expect our sisters to treat us Kings in just the same manner but it is not haappening these days.

    I ray that more of our brothesr and sisters will read this an take it to heart because it is true and it has got to change NOW. Love ya Angie 🙂 <3

    Jun.30.2011 at 6:28 pm
  3. Freddie L. Dowdell

    Angie: Very good article way an eye opener, we as Mothers and Fathers need to start teaching our boys girls about GODS words but at the same time we can’t teach it if we are not living it. Keep up the good work. Mr. Freddie

    Jun.30.2011 at 10:53 pm
  4. Tracey Rentz

    Angie, the article was right on point! We as brothers and sisters need to hear words such as these! I truly Thank God that he has given it to you to share because during these days and times it should be heard and told like it is! Many Blessings to you and continue to let God use you for His Glory!

    Jul.11.2011 at 10:41 am
  5. Glenda Wilson

    Evangelist, great article. Keep up the good work. It is evident that the hand of the Lord is upon you. It is so refreshing to see young individuals as yourself going forth for the Lord. Stay focused, pliable in His hands andencouraged. I decree the blessings of the Lord upon you.

    Jul.14.2011 at 5:32 pm


    Sep.18.2011 at 7:53 am
  7. Maggie Mount

    Angie, this is an excellent article. You continue to let the Lord use you to speak the truth.

    Sep.26.2011 at 12:11 am
  8. Rebecca Dobbins

    Angie, I was so happy to see in print things I have been witnessing on a regular basis. I pray the Lord continues to feed you and you continue to eat and press forward with his word.

    Oct.15.2011 at 4:04 pm
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