Gift For Man

June 15, 2012 / by / 25 Comments

Have you ever really thought about why God designed a woman? I mean just think about it… what was God’s true purpose behind such a beautifully crafted delicate vessel? Now, I do not confess to be able to explain the depth of God’s motives and reasons. However, when I think about the scriptures that capture the moment of a woman’s design and development; I am in awe of the magnificence, and so very thankful for the privilege to be called WOMAN!!!

In the word of God it states, “And the Lord caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept; and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis 2:21-24 KJV) There you have it, a woman, taken out of man by the hands of God, designed by God, structured by God, and placed with man for a specific purpose by God. Therefore, surely there is significant value and worth that has been placed within the woman to be poured out for the benefit of that relationship.

A point to consider, God specifically used the rib, and I believe that He chose the ribs for a reason. While writing this article, God directed me to do a little research on the Rib cage of the human body. Upon research, I learned that the rib cage is the largest conglomeration of bones in the human body. One of the main purposes of the rib cage is protection. It also serves as a skeletal structure for the human physique. The rib cage is made up of several bone types and cartilage that serves several important purposes. They protect the heart and lungs from injuries and shocks that might damage them. They also protect parts of the stomach, spleen and kidneys. According to my research, the ribs also help us to breathe because as we inhale, the muscles in between the ribs lift the rib cage up, allowing the lungs to expand. In addition, when we exhale the rib cage moves down again, squeezing the air out of our lungs. Therefore, the ribs are vital in the overall efficient performance of the human body. Accordingly, God’s decision to design “Woman” from the rib of man; clearly indicates that she too is vital to the overall successful performance of a relationship.

Yet, it is still quite amazing to me that in 2012, the value and worth of a woman is still under-rated. Moreover, what troubles me most is when women of God choose to be involved in relationships that minimize their importance. God designed woman as the helper of man (see Genesis 2:18). Therefore it is critical that we as women recognize our value and only connect with men that understand God’s purpose and the value you bring to him and that relationship.

Ladies, if you can’t express your feelings or concerns to the man in your life without fear of him becoming upset or disrespecting you; something is wrong. Please know and understand that the woman was designed to do more than cook, clean and have sex on demand. A woman’s emotional instincts are critical. She can see and feel things that a man has not been designed to recognize. She can verbalize and express concerns or issues that will be beneficial to the overall protection of that union. And a “spiritual” godly man can and will identify that without a sense of intimidation or a bruised ego. That man will know and understand, “whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord” (proverbs 18:22) KJV

It is time out for solemn Christian married households. It is time to bind and rebuke ungodly spirits that hinder the ability for husbands and wives to communicate; that fails to support one another in their work for the Kingdom of God; and fails to recognize and value the worth of their partner. It is time to release wives to walk comfortably in the purpose that God designed for them within the household; without intimidation or restrictions. It is time for Godly marriages to take their rightful place in the household of God.

Marriage is honorable & lawful and is a union between a man and a woman that is ordained by God. It is the binding together of two souls with a significant purpose to reproduce godly off-springs for the benefit of Kingdom building. It is magical and beautiful and it is romantic and loving. Yet, marriage can also be stressful, and demanding; to put it quite simply; a whole lot of sacrificing and work. But that’s okay, because God left the Holy Bible as our instruction manual and the Holy Spirit as our guide. We as believers only have to freely choose to follow.

You see, marriage like most entities has been commercialized. In advertisements you only see the glamour and the glory. We dream about the beautiful wedding and the romantic honeymoon, but no one talks about the tremendous sacrifice required to have a successful marriage. No one ever truly explains the pain involved in the combining of two souls. We sit back and fantasize about the idea of marriage, yet fail to accept the sweat and tears it takes to build the eternal foundation of that union.

Despite it all, my sisters and brothers in Christ it can be done. God has given us everything we need to create loving godly marriages. I believe that the foundational instructions for love and relationships under God’s design can be found in book of Ephesians chapter five; however, the critical scripture is, EPHESIANS 5:33. “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband.” (NIV) In that one verse, the husband is given a directive and the wife is given a directive. It is not an option, It is a command. And when a command is broken, you will always suffer a consequence. Therefore, it’s up to you. Do you want a fulfilling, peaceful and Godly marriage? Then you must decide to follow the word. Husbands are instructed to love and wives are instructed to respect. It is just that simple, yet complex all in one scripture. Why? Because it takes denying the flesh, and the denial of the flesh is difficult.

In this set of scriptures husbands are also directed to nourish and cherish their wives. So what does nourish and cherish mean? To supply the mean of support; to care about; to hold dear; to treat with tenderness and affection; to protect and aid; to embrace with interest; to encourage, and to promote. Whoa, that is the man’s charge! Fellows, this is why a woman has an internal desire to be “wined and dined”. She will always have a desire to be cherished and treated with tenderness and affection that is why it is a directive that God requires of husbands. Nevertheless, because of the internal makeup of the man’s design to hunt, work, provide, and protect; the “wooing” will take extra effort, but that’s called LOVE. This is why the word of God explains that love suffers long, and it is kind. It does not envy, nor is it easily provoked. Love thinks no evil, and it does not rejoice in iniquity but rejoices in truth. Love never fails!!!!!!!! (see I Corinthians 13: 4-8)

So my Brothers in Christ, always remember, “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30 KJV) Our instruction manual (or word of God) lets us know that the woman was designed for you with a specific purpose to be your help meet. The value of this delicate treasure is worth more than rubies. There is nothing that will come before her love for Christ and her love and devotion to you. She prays for you; she cries for you; she supports you; and she labors for you; even when you are too busy to notice. She is your friend, your lover, your helper, your WIFE. My brothers in Christ, she is a part of you. Trust and believe…..SHE GOT YOUR BACK!!!! Therefore, let nothing and no one hinder you from recognizing and appreciating her value and worth!


25 Responses
  1. Ophelia

    Great article right on point. Good work!!!!

    Jun.15.2012 at 8:40 am
  2. Anissa McDuffie-Henry

    Wow! what a powerful message. I love it.

    Jun.15.2012 at 11:17 am
  3. Dan Hoffman

    Hi Angie, this article is great. I agree 100 %. I also think when we enter into marriage, we need to remember that each spouse has a different role. The husband’s role is no more important than that of the wifes, because they both should be fulfilling the roles that have been assigned to them by God and together they will make a complete unit.

    I understand why Sheri speaks so highly of you and just values the relationship you all share. You are truly a Woman of God.
    luv ya

    Dan

    Jun.15.2012 at 11:19 am
  4. Larry Coleman, Esq.

    Angie, first of all I enjoyed most of this article. The part I do not agree with is: ” Ladies, if you can’t express your feelings or concerns to the man in your life without fear of him becoming upset or disrespecting you; something is wrong.” You know I am a big believer in women being submissive. I am the type of man who need a woman who knows when and when not to speak. Period.

    You know I am very vocal. I am proud of you for always standing on God’s word and for also helping me to realize the importance of trying to implement the word into my life..

    I love you, Angie

    Larry

    Jun.15.2012 at 11:38 am
  5. Cynthia

    Wonderful article Angie! U definitely have a gift.

    Jun.15.2012 at 12:40 pm
  6. Margaret Thomas

    My Girl Angie
    As always you’re hitting it hard and with the grace and beauty of a woman of God. It’s great to understand your worth in the eyes of God and to also see that worth reflected in the eyes of your man. A Godly marriage takes work on both sides. As you have taught me and help me to understand being submissive to a man of God is easy but when you try to be submissive to a worldly man that’s when your knees just can’t bend. – Much Love

    Jun.15.2012 at 2:43 pm
  7. Lynita

    Angie, I thank God for you and the assignment that He has entrusted to you; “Love” according to God’s design. Angie, this article is wonderful. As always, your articles continue to help me spiritually, as a wife, woman and a disciple. Continue to bless the Lord. Love Lynita

    Jun.15.2012 at 8:33 pm
  8. Marlyn M.

    Hello Angie
    This is truly a wonderful article. It is published in the right magazine 1Truth.I pray for continued Solace along the path that God has set you on.

    Much Love
    Marilyn

    Jun.15.2012 at 8:51 pm
  9. Anonymous

    Angie,

    Well stated.

    The versue you utilized in Ephesians I have read, and been directed to read, many times overs the years. I think it sums up the man / women relationship very well: women are motivated by love, while men are motivated by respect. If I have learned anything after 22 years of marriage it’s that marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship and the health of your relationship is really seen in times of disagreement ….and there will be many disagreements. For me the key is to try and address them in a God honoring manner and when I don’t, recognize it and correct it quickly.

    Jun.17.2012 at 8:00 am
  10. Flora

    Angie

    You hit it right on the head! Marriage is a partnership. Although each man and woman should be able to stand on their own two feet as individuals, they should be equals to each other. Sure, everyone takes on certain roles in a relationship…the cooking, cleaning, the lawn (my lawn would die without Bobby’s handiwork!)…, but it’s not because that is what we HAVE to do, it’s what we want to do for each other. YOU are only treated in a certain manner because YOU have allowed yourself to be treated that way. Thanks so much for this wonderful article!

    Jun.17.2012 at 8:12 am
  11. Monique

    I think that this is an amazing article. A lot of people need to read it. Those who are already married as well as for those who are thinking about marriage. Since I am in the latter group, I must say that I totally aggree. As women, we have lost ourselves and our values. I lump us all in together because that is how we are viewed by men. The good suffers with the bad. I am blessed by this article and I appreciate you for writing it!

    Jun.17.2012 at 8:13 am
  12. Frederick A Dowdell Sr

    Angie,

    I agree with your whole article as it hits on points that all men should take the time and learn. I have always and truly to this day believe that without the woman we as men would not be who we are, where we are and have what we have. I know that there are a lot of men who do not believe as I do but guess what, who cares. This is my opinion. I agree with the way you describe how the rib cage is a protection of organs because I believe that my wife is as well my protector. There are too many women that have devalued themselves because of a man that is not even on their same Spiritual level. All together Angie this is by far your best one yet. I love it!

    Jun.17.2012 at 8:46 am
  13. Evangeline Rentz (Author)

    Thanks everyone for your comments. To God Be the Glory..for His Word and his guidance, for there truly is a design and purpose for each individual. When love and respect is practiced in the marriage that union will be glorified by God!!!!! Much love…Evangeline

    Jun.17.2012 at 9:15 am
  14. Sheri Mitchell-Smith

    Hi Angie,
    I enjoyed this article. Your articles and your conversations always help me stay focused on God’s word. Thank you , love ya

    Sheri

    Jun.17.2012 at 11:32 pm
  15. Roosevelt Harrison

    Hello Angie,

    You defintely have the gift, I enjoyed reading the article. Thank you for sharing.

    Roosevelt

    Jun.18.2012 at 7:48 am
  16. Brother Jason Tuck

    Wow, what a blessing this article was. Marriage is precious and it does comes with obedience to God and commitment to one another. We often see only the glory, but not the story. Every great marriage has its own sacrifices, and being equally yoke is spiritually important.

    Thanks

    Jun.18.2012 at 8:19 am
  17. YVETTE

    LOVED THE ARTICLE. VERY WELL PREPARED AND BIBLICALLY SOUND. THANKS FOR SHARING.. GOD BLESS YOU SISTER

    Jun.18.2012 at 6:36 pm
  18. Carol Felton Mobley

    Angie,

    The depth of your wisdom regarding the subject matter is immeasurable. Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom. I always learn more and more after reading your articles. Thank you! Carol 🙂

    Jun.19.2012 at 8:03 pm
  19. Gina Wilson

    Great, truthful article Angie. Imagine a world where folks (like me) just did what God told us to do? I agree wholeheartedly with His word but my flesh fights with me every second of every day. Ladies have to respect their husbands. Plain and simple. It doesn’t say, “if he loves you THEN you respect him.” It commands you to do it regardless of circumstance. Hard? Yes, Lord! But doable if we are guided by the Holy Spirit and God’s motives.

    Jun.24.2012 at 1:25 am
  20. Charlene Waters

    Angie,

    You are a gifted wtiter! I love the article,especially the research you shared about the Rib cage…. Love It! The article is enlightening and on point. Thanks for keeping it real and backing it with scripture. I look forward to reading your upcoming articles, hopefully soon!Keep allowing the Holy Spirit to work through you! You are a Blessing to the Kingdom!

    Love You Angie!

    Jun.25.2012 at 9:55 am
  21. Towanda B.

    Hi Angie:
    Wonderful article. Love it, love you always straight to the point. If it hits you; you are hit. Prayers that you continue to do God’s work.

    Love you.

    Jun.26.2012 at 1:55 pm
  22. Vinette

    Hi Ms. Angie:

    I loved the article, great as usual…keep up the good work and continue doing what you are doing because believe it or not you are making a difference in people’s lives

    Love you,

    Jun.29.2012 at 11:07 am
  23. Tinelle

    Hey Angie!
    So I know you told me to check out this article a few weeks back and I didn’t get around to it. Let’s just say God had a plan as he always does. My husband and I have been going through a rough time right now and just couldn’t seem to get it together. So, weeks later as I’m cleaning my purse I come across your note to me to read the article. The only thing I can say to you is THANK YOU! For allowing God to use you in a way that even you may not be aware of you will be truly blessed.

    Your sister in Christ,
    Tinelle(alto):)

    Jul.09.2012 at 10:40 am
  24. Rosalyn Florence

    Angie, thanks for this beautifully written, biblically based article!

    All I can think of is how many marriages could be saved if we did it
    God’s way…the wife respecting her husband and he loving his wife. What kind of impact could this have on the world. I understand now why the enemy tried to discourage you. He did not want this kind of message to get out. But let me encourage you my sister, don’t ever stop writing. The world needs to hear your messages which are sent straight from the throne. I love you, My Sister in Christ

    Nov.17.2012 at 8:16 pm
  25. Vonnie

    Wow! Sister Evangeline is “ALWAYS” on point. She tells & writes stories/articles well, with truth, honesty & feelings; backing up with scriptures. PLEASE let’s continue supporting her as she is truly blessed with a gift continuing to educate through her teachings, writings and giving US THE TRUTH ONLINE!

    Jun.03.2014 at 11:29 am
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