Gift For Man
Have you ever really thought about why God designed a woman? I mean just think about it… what was God’s true purpose behind such a beautifully crafted delicate vessel? Now, I do not confess to be able to explain the depth of God’s motives and reasons. However, when I think about the scriptures that capture the moment of a woman’s design and development; I am in awe of the magnificence, and so very thankful for the privilege to be called WOMAN!!!
In the word of God it states, “And the Lord caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept; and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis 2:21-24 KJV) There you have it, a woman, taken out of man by the hands of God, designed by God, structured by God, and placed with man for a specific purpose by God. Therefore, surely there is significant value and worth that has been placed within the woman to be poured out for the benefit of that relationship.
A point to consider, God specifically used the rib, and I believe that He chose the ribs for a reason. While writing this article, God directed me to do a little research on the Rib cage of the human body. Upon research, I learned that the rib cage is the largest conglomeration of bones in the human body. One of the main purposes of the rib cage is protection. It also serves as a skeletal structure for the human physique. The rib cage is made up of several bone types and cartilage that serves several important purposes. They protect the heart and lungs from injuries and shocks that might damage them. They also protect parts of the stomach, spleen and kidneys. According to my research, the ribs also help us to breathe because as we inhale, the muscles in between the ribs lift the rib cage up, allowing the lungs to expand. In addition, when we exhale the rib cage moves down again, squeezing the air out of our lungs. Therefore, the ribs are vital in the overall efficient performance of the human body. Accordingly, God’s decision to design “Woman” from the rib of man; clearly indicates that she too is vital to the overall successful performance of a relationship.
Yet, it is still quite amazing to me that in 2012, the value and worth of a woman is still under-rated. Moreover, what troubles me most is when women of God choose to be involved in relationships that minimize their importance. God designed woman as the helper of man (see Genesis 2:18). Therefore it is critical that we as women recognize our value and only connect with men that understand God’s purpose and the value you bring to him and that relationship.
Ladies, if you can’t express your feelings or concerns to the man in your life without fear of him becoming upset or disrespecting you; something is wrong. Please know and understand that the woman was designed to do more than cook, clean and have sex on demand. A woman’s emotional instincts are critical. She can see and feel things that a man has not been designed to recognize. She can verbalize and express concerns or issues that will be beneficial to the overall protection of that union. And a “spiritual” godly man can and will identify that without a sense of intimidation or a bruised ego. That man will know and understand, “whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord” (proverbs 18:22) KJV
It is time out for solemn Christian married households. It is time to bind and rebuke ungodly spirits that hinder the ability for husbands and wives to communicate; that fails to support one another in their work for the Kingdom of God; and fails to recognize and value the worth of their partner. It is time to release wives to walk comfortably in the purpose that God designed for them within the household; without intimidation or restrictions. It is time for Godly marriages to take their rightful place in the household of God.
Marriage is honorable & lawful and is a union between a man and a woman that is ordained by God. It is the binding together of two souls with a significant purpose to reproduce godly off-springs for the benefit of Kingdom building. It is magical and beautiful and it is romantic and loving. Yet, marriage can also be stressful, and demanding; to put it quite simply; a whole lot of sacrificing and work. But that’s okay, because God left the Holy Bible as our instruction manual and the Holy Spirit as our guide. We as believers only have to freely choose to follow.
You see, marriage like most entities has been commercialized. In advertisements you only see the glamour and the glory. We dream about the beautiful wedding and the romantic honeymoon, but no one talks about the tremendous sacrifice required to have a successful marriage. No one ever truly explains the pain involved in the combining of two souls. We sit back and fantasize about the idea of marriage, yet fail to accept the sweat and tears it takes to build the eternal foundation of that union.
Despite it all, my sisters and brothers in Christ it can be done. God has given us everything we need to create loving godly marriages. I believe that the foundational instructions for love and relationships under God’s design can be found in book of Ephesians chapter five; however, the critical scripture is, EPHESIANS 5:33. “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband.” (NIV) In that one verse, the husband is given a directive and the wife is given a directive. It is not an option, It is a command. And when a command is broken, you will always suffer a consequence. Therefore, it’s up to you. Do you want a fulfilling, peaceful and Godly marriage? Then you must decide to follow the word. Husbands are instructed to love and wives are instructed to respect. It is just that simple, yet complex all in one scripture. Why? Because it takes denying the flesh, and the denial of the flesh is difficult.
In this set of scriptures husbands are also directed to nourish and cherish their wives. So what does nourish and cherish mean? To supply the mean of support; to care about; to hold dear; to treat with tenderness and affection; to protect and aid; to embrace with interest; to encourage, and to promote. Whoa, that is the man’s charge! Fellows, this is why a woman has an internal desire to be “wined and dined”. She will always have a desire to be cherished and treated with tenderness and affection that is why it is a directive that God requires of husbands. Nevertheless, because of the internal makeup of the man’s design to hunt, work, provide, and protect; the “wooing” will take extra effort, but that’s called LOVE. This is why the word of God explains that love suffers long, and it is kind. It does not envy, nor is it easily provoked. Love thinks no evil, and it does not rejoice in iniquity but rejoices in truth. Love never fails!!!!!!!! (see I Corinthians 13: 4-8)
So my Brothers in Christ, always remember, “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30 KJV) Our instruction manual (or word of God) lets us know that the woman was designed for you with a specific purpose to be your help meet. The value of this delicate treasure is worth more than rubies. There is nothing that will come before her love for Christ and her love and devotion to you. She prays for you; she cries for you; she supports you; and she labors for you; even when you are too busy to notice. She is your friend, your lover, your helper, your WIFE. My brothers in Christ, she is a part of you. Trust and believe…..SHE GOT YOUR BACK!!!! Therefore, let nothing and no one hinder you from recognizing and appreciating her value and worth!